Bullying

The Anti-Bullying Alliance defines Bullying as the “repetitive, intentional hurting of one person or group by another person or group, where the relationship involves an imbalance of power. It can happen face to face or online.”

There are many forms of bullying which include; Physical, Verbal, Emotional, Sexual, Cyberbullying and Indirect Bullying, for example spreading rumors. Most bullying is done by children who are the same age as the victim.

You may think that your child is unlikely to be bullied but the reality is that bullying can happen at any time and to any child. If your child tells you about a ‘friend’ who is being bullied listen carefully and take them seriously. They may be trying to tell you it’s happening to them.

Bullying is a frightening experience. It can isolate, damage self-confidence and can negative effects on children. It can have an impact on the child’s peer relationships. It is important that you can pick up on some common signs of a child being bullied.

All schools in Tameside have an Anti-Bullying Policy. School action alone cannot guarantee it stops, so it is important that you work together with your child’s school.

What to do if you suspect your child is being bullied

  • If you suspect bullying is happening, speak to school or professional if it’s outside of school.
  • Listen and reassure them that coming to you was the right thing to do.
  • Try and establish the facts.
  • Assure them that the bullying is not their fault.
  • Do not encourage retaliation.
  • If you say that you are going to do something, ensure that you do.

Here are some common signs:

  • Missing or broken belongings
  • Injury without explanation
  • Increase sick days or faking illness
  • Loss of confidence
  • Being nervous
  • Feeling tired or irritable
  • Keeping to themselves (more than usual), or becoming less social with peers

If bullying is through text messages, instant messaging or email, advise them not to respond to the messages. Save the messages or take a screen print as evidence. There are ‘report abuse’ facilities on many websites.